Life is constantly changing. A reality which can be difficult for people with ADHD who often struggle with making change, especially when it is unexpected. In order to make change more successful it is not enough to know what we want to change or even what is motivating us to change. We need to be able to have enough “space” to change.
Making change successfully requires that we have created enough “space” in our lives for that change to occur and be maintained. In order to make a change, not be overwhelmed in the process and be sure that the change is lasting we need to consider three things.
We need enough time. Change takes time. Research says it takes 24 days to create a new habit. For people with ADHD, it may take even twice that long. And even longer to maintain the change so it will last.
We need to make sure we have physical space in our lives. Another way to look at this is that we need to make room in our lives for change. For people with ADHD, this literally may mean cleaning out, de cluttering or tossing out items to create room for a different way of living. Creating space means also means that we have room to add some useful items in our space, such as a new filing system, storage bins, etc.
And finally, we need to have cleared a space in our heads for new thinking and habits to take root and support this change. Often this means getting rid of old negative thinking or beliefs. You know, those thoughts that keep you from moving forward, trying something new. Consider what is keeping you from making a change and mentally toss them out. When we don’t admit and rid our minds of long standing doubts, fears or false beliefs they will prevent new more optimistic and positive perspectives from being possible.
Once you have created the time, physical and mental space in your life for change to occur, you will be well on your way to new experiences that will surely bring you more success, enjoyment and satisfaction in your life. After all…isn’t that what you want?!