Motivation…where does this elusive, inconsistent, and essential inspiration hide? How can you tap into it and stay motivated with ADHD? What is it that makes the day you decide to put your foot down, or your tennis shoes on, and work on your goals different than all the other days you don’t?
What would it be like to know how to consistently follow through regularly and realize you are making progress towards your goals? To not let the short-term distractions derail your longer-term outcomes.
When you have ADHD, the key is knowing your specific source of motivation. What’s your catalyst, the spark that works for you. Motivation is different for everyone.
Long-term change results from riding the wave of consistent motivation until you can build habits, routines, and long-term systems that have you getting a bit better each day.
One Source of Motivation
As humans, we notice and pay attention to pain and frustration. It’s in our DNA, brain, and physiology. It’s a response that has kept us alive for thousands of years. It’s biology. It may not always feel good, but negative emotions do motivate us more deeply than positive ones. Ridding ourselves of negative feelings can be very motivating.
Not finding an essential household item where it belongs, a store receipt or a file on my computer is frustrating. It feels like I am wasting time. Time is one of our most precious commodities, and wasting it is very irritating to me. Frustrations are great motivators when I don’t want to do something.
What pains or frustrations do you have? When you have ADHD, the list can seem endless. Like me, do you get frustrated when you feel like you are wasting time? Do you get frustrated when you forget to pay a bill and end up paying more with late fees? Does the messiness of your environment interfere with your ability to enjoy your home or work? Are you frustrated with yourself when you find yourself not doing the things you want to be? What about the frustration of people who don’t understand ADHD? That tends to be a biggie for people with ADHD. Frustrations don’t go away unless we do something to change them.
Suppose you are noticing frustrations in your life…good! Consider the perspective that these frustrations might be great ADHD motivators for you.
When I notice my frustration of wasting time, it motivates me to take the time to organize. The reward of finding things I need quickly is the reward. Remembering how good it feels not to waste time and see a neat home can then double as motivation to regularly include tidying up.
Another ADHD Source of Motivation
If frustration is one source of motivation, inspiration at the other end of the spectrum is another great one for people with ADHD. Inspiration is great to tap into during times you are feeling
For instance, that feeling of seeing somebody doing something you would like to do or try. An optimism that buoys you to want that for yourself too. There are times where you see somebody doing something you want to do with your life, it’s encouraging, and you say to yourself, “I can do that” or “I want that for myself.” This motivation seems to come from hope and confidence to do something even if it isn’t easy. This source of motivation feels empowering.
Using this inspiration successfully for people with ADHD is more likely when we are leveraging our strengths and ignoring those pesky negative thoughts so common when we consider trying something new. Trying on the perspective that allows us to use the inspiration to practice, keep trying, and work towards a goal. To do what it takes to have that thing or life, we feel possible. And when you do follow through, despite the mistakes and even failures, you’ll smile to yourself, remembering the doubt you used to have.
Life Event Motivation
The driving force behind another type of motivation for people with ADHD are life events that cause a shift, a new perspective, or cause us to make a difficult choice about the direction we want our life to take. At the time, these life events can be very challenging. Like being fired from a job, a relationship ending, the death of a loved one, a pandemic.
Ironically, these tough life events often force us into taking action and making changes whether we want to or not. These are great examples of why we don’t have to feel motivated to change our lives. Sometimes life will take care of that for us.
Losing a job allows us to consider what we really want to do for work or has us considering the difference we want to make in the world. Having a near fatal car crash completely changed my oldest son’s life trajectory positively. A pandemic has us considering the resilience that we, as individuals, families, communities, and a world, are capable of during a crisis. These moments don’t need to be extreme. Many smaller moments in life have seeds of opportunity in them if we are paying attention.
An Unusual Useful Source of Motivation
Early in my career as an ADHD Life Coach, there were many skills I didn’t have yet. Instead of begrudging others’ knowledge, I watched, learned, and often paid more experienced coaches to teach me what they knew about coaching and business. I was encouraged by their success and used it as inspiration to keep trying myself and became one of those who were successful. Comparison is natural. Harness that energy and use it to stay focused and motivate your own accomplishments.
A Source That Never Runs Out
Use that fantastic creative ADHD mind of yours to use one of the most motivating and effective techniques: visualization. See yourself having the life you want in the future and the steps that will get you there. What do you want for your health, your relationships, your work, your life to mean?
Doing this right now will benefit the ‘future you.’ And yes, you can change your mind if you want! Visualizing yourself in the future in no way limits your choices. If your preferences change, change the vision. Close is good enough. The important thing is to start envisioning it now.
Imagine the life you want. You only need to generate enough motivation to take consistent, “turtle steps” to achieve your goals over time.
The motivation for persons with ADHD can come in some surprising ways. Frustration, inspiration, life events, other’s accomplishments, and visualization. Leverage one or use them all. Persons with ADHD can create motivation for themselves, even if, at times, we feel a little uninspired.
What is your favorite way to get yourself motivated with ADHD? I’d love to know. Please add your comments in the section below.
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