Many parents of ADHD children have felt frustration with their child’s impulsivity, inattention, and restlessness.  What you as parents of an ADHD child may not know, are five tips that can help/teach your child to be more in control of their behavior and still maintain their natural curiosity and enthusiasm.

Child Tips

  1. Be clear with the “rules” in advance.  Take a little extra time to calmly remind your child what is expected of them.  Many ADHD children are not auditory learners and literally will not hear you tell them something from across the room.  Make sure you have your child’s attention by gently touching them on the shoulder and looking directly into their eyes with your request.  Have them repeat the expectation to be sure they have “heard” you.  Keep your request brief and succinct.
  2. Answering the “Why?”  Like most, children with ADHD want to know why they must follow the rules.  They often comprehend things concretely and truly benefit from a simple statement as to “why” they must behave.  For instance, if the rule is “not to jump on furniture”, follow this request by telling your child “because it is not safe.  You could fall and get hurt.”
  3. Consequences.  A child must understand what will happen if they do misbehave.  By establishing this beforehand, disciplining becomes more matter-of-fact.  If your child is around seven years old or older, they can become involved in this discussion. Remember, consequences for misbehavior should “make sense” or follow logically the specific misbehavior.  For instance, if the rule is that they cannot hit another child because it hurts them, the consequence for this misbehavior may be to have them removed from the situation.  In other words, by not being able to act appropriately in a social situation, they will need to be removed until they can.
  4. Develop a “Signal”.  Develop a signal between you and your child that will serve to remind them if they are starting to misbehave.  By engaging your child in coming up with the “signal” they will be more likely to respond.  Some examples may include winking at them, putting your finger to your lips, or using a downward motion with your hand.  The more involved your child is in coming up with the “signal”, the more they will respond when it is given.
  5. Consistency.  ADHD children are nothing if inconsistent.  As parents, we need to model consistency for them so that they learn that rules make sense.  To reinforce this, we must enforce our rules consistently.  Never engage or negotiate after the rules have been established. Simply remind the child what the rule is… “why” it is important and follow through with the discipline.

Here is to your parenting success!

Share This

Share this post with someone who needs it!